In this episode of Moment to Moment, Coach Pia is joined by Jolina Magdangal, often referred to as the Queen of Filipino Pop Culture, to discuss Day 18’s theme: returning to alignment when you drift. Together, they explore the importance of noticing when you’ve strayed from your true self and the grace required to find your way back.
Key Takeaways:
A Shift in Focus: Jolina reflects on how her priorities and alignment have shifted throughout her life. During her younger years in showbiz, her primary focus was on making her parents—especially her father, who was her manager—proud, and pleasing her audience [00:04:34]. Today, as a wife and mother, her decisions are deeply rooted in partnership with her husband, Mark, and leaving a positive legacy for her children [00:05:06].
The Courage to Individuate: Finding your own alignment often means breaking away from the expectations of your family of origin. Jolina shares that it wasn’t until she got married that she truly found the courage to set boundaries and establish her own path, a process she admits was incredibly difficult but necessary [00:09:25].
Trusting the Timing: Establishing independence and finding your alignment is a process that requires patience. Jolina emphasizes the importance of trusting your own timing and not rushing the process, as rushing often leads to confusion rather than clarity [00:11:11].
Reinvention from Within: When asked how she reinvents herself, Jolina explains that true reinvention happens internally. While she still enjoys expressing herself through vibrant fashion, the most profound changes—the reinvention of her character and how she treats others—originate from within [00:13:00].
Meeting Yourself with Grace: Drift happens to everyone, even when you think you have things figured out. Jolina recounts a recent experience of misplaced trust that caused her deep distress. With the support of her husband, she learned to view the experience not as a setback, but as an opportunity for growth and a reminder to give herself grace [00:15:28].
Embracing Disruption: Coach Pia explains the science behind our resistance to change, noting that the brain prefers the status quo. To grow and realign, we must invite disruption and challenge into our lives to build new neural pathways (neuroplasticity) [00:18:22].
The Power of Release: Finding clarity and returning to alignment is not an instantaneous process. Jolina advises taking the time to “himayin” (to strip or pull apart) your feelings, isolating the positive emotions, and slowly letting go of the burdens that weigh you down [00:26:42].
Noticing is the First Step: The simple act of noticing that you have drifted from your center is the most important step. That awareness alone is the beginning of the journey back home to yourself [00:29:00].